How To Get Your Child To Listen Part 2 | Premack Principle

One of the most effective tools in ABA therapy is something deceptively simple - the First-Then strategy, also known as the Premack Principle or sometimes even "Grandma’s Rule." This concept is widely used in applied behavior analysis to increase motivation, build routines, and help children with autism complete less-preferred tasks by pairing them with more rewarding activities.

If you're a parent of a child with special needs, especially autism, this approach can be a game-changer at home. It’s not about forcing compliance, it’s about creating motivation, clarity, and structure in a way that makes sense for your child.

What Is the First-Then Strategy?

The First-Then strategy is a basic behavior intervention tool that’s frequently used in ABA programs. It works like this:

First [do something less preferred], then [get something preferred].

You might say:

• “First brush your teeth, then you can watch TV.”

• “First finish your puzzle, then you can play on the iPad.”

  
  

The goal is to increase the likelihood of completing a non-preferred activity by offering access to something enjoyable immediately afterward.

This method is rooted in behavioral psychology. When used consistently, it helps children understand expectations and build trust that a reward follows effort.

Why It Works for Kids with Autism

Children with autism often benefit from predictable routines and clear cause-and-effect relationships. The First-Then strategy:

• Reduces power struggles

• Increases task completion

• Encourages waiting skills

• Supports language development

• Helps generalize behavioral concepts from ABA therapy to everyday life

  
  

It’s simple, easy to implement at home, and incredibly effective, especially when tailored to your child’s interests and abilities.

Teaching the First-Then Concept: A Step-by-Step Approach

Implementing First-Then doesn’t mean jumping straight to challenging tasks. Teaching it successfully requires a gradual approach:

Step 1: Start with Two Preferred Activities

In the beginning, pair two things your child already enjoys. For example:

• “First eat ice cream, then play the iPad.”

  
  

Yes, both are motivating. The goal at this stage is just to teach the concept of sequencing and reward.

Step 2: Introduce a Moderately Preferred Task

Once your child understands the First-Then structure, replace the first activity with something mildly less exciting, like:

• “First do a puzzle, then iPad.”

  
  

They may not love the puzzle, but it’s not a huge challenge either. This helps increase tolerance and build independence.

Step 3: Move to Less Preferred or Demanding Tasks

Now you can apply First-Then to everyday tasks or learning goals:

• “First color this page, then you get your iPad.”

• “First clean up toys, then go outside.”

  
  

You’re gradually shaping your child’s ability to complete less preferred tasks while staying motivated.

Things to Keep in Mind Before You Start

• Check for Basic Instruction Following - Before implementing this strategy, ensure your child can follow some simple instructions like “sit down” or “color.”

  
  

• Teach Waiting - Waiting, even for a short time, is key. If your child struggles to wait for the reward, you may want to practice this skill first with very brief delays and gradually increase the time.

  
  

• Use Visual Supports - Visual aids can reinforce the First-Then structure, especially for visual learners. Try using a visual schedule or picture cards: 

  Picture of crayons → iPad

  “First” card → “Then” card

This makes expectations clear and supports comprehension.

Verbal vs. Visual: Know What Works Best for Your Child

Every child is different. Some respond well to verbal instructions, while others may need a visual representation to understand sequencing. Use the method that aligns with how your child processes information best:

• Verbal: “First brush teeth, then play outside.”

• Visual: Use printed cards or icons representing each task.

  
  

Consistency is key, whichever method you choose.

Common Pitfalls to Avoid

• Avoid using only demands: “Go brush your teeth!” without any follow-up motivator may not work well, especially if brushing teeth is non-preferred.

  
  

• Avoid negative phrasing: “If you don’t brush your teeth, no TV.” This introduces punishment instead of using reinforcement.

  
  

• Don’t forget to follow through: Always honor the "then" activity. Trust is essential to success.

  
  

Real-Life Example from a Parent’s Perspective

Have you ever told your child, “We’ll go to the park after we clean your room,” only to have that backfire? Using the First-Then strategy clearly sets your child up for success. Instead of being vague or reactive, you’re being proactive and structured, just like in an ABA therapy session.

You’re not bribing. You’re teaching.

First-Then Charts: Make Your Own

You don’t need fancy tools to get started. Here’s how to DIY a First-Then chart:

• Use index cards or printable icons

• Laminate them for reuse

• Use Velcro to stick them on a board or folder

  
  

You can also find free First-Then templates online or create digital versions for tablets or smartphones.

The First-Then strategy is a core part of ABA for a reason: it works. When used intentionally, it creates structure, builds skills, and reduces stress for both you and your child. Whether you're using it at home for daily routines or as a bridge from structured ABA therapy to everyday life, this tool can help you support your child's growth with clarity and confidence.